For Men Who Don’t Know How to STOP Hurting Loved Ones..
So many of the men that I work with will come into the session and say, “my wife thinks I’m a narcissist” and I have to explain that this might not be as cut and dry as it may appear.
You might find yourself caught in a cycle—turning to substances, pornography, or affairs—not because you lack willpower, but because you’re seeking relief from pain, emptiness, or disconnection. These behaviors may offer temporary escape, but they often leave you feeling more isolated and ashamed.
I understand that behind these actions are unmet needs and unresolved wounds. It’s not about labeling you as “bad” or “broken.” It’s about recognizing the patterns that no longer serve you and exploring the underlying reasons they began.
If you identify with any of these patterns, you’re my people:
Avoidance and Defensiveness
Impulsivity
Anger
Compulsive decisions
Disorganization
Losing things, difficulty with focus, follow-through
Porn use
Cheating
Drug/Substance use
Numbing with Alcohol use
Lashing out
In our work together, we will:
Identify Triggers: Understand the situations or feelings that lead to destructive behaviors.
Explore Underlying Issues: Delve into past experiences that contribute to current patterns.
Develop Coping Strategies: Learn healthier ways to manage stress, loneliness, or emotional pain.
Rebuild Relationships: If infidelity has impacted your relationships, we’ll work on restoring trust and communication.
Cultivate Self-Compassion: Move from self-judgment to understanding and acceptance.
If you’re ready to be honest with yourself and create new behaviors and make better choices, contact me and stop avoiding. (Yes, I get you!)