Discovering Infidelity is one of the most traumatic experiences that one can live through. Infidelity trauma leads to a wide range of psychological deficits and results in a significant impairment on an individual’s mental health. For those of us who have lived through this level of betrayal, we can explain the psychological torment of ruminating thoughts and sleepless nights. When the foundation of emotional safety is violated in a partnership, a person begins to develop feelings of numbness, apathy, resentment, anger, and a deep sense of mourning. The aftermath of infidelity leaves betrayed partners feeling lost, overwhelmed, resentful, angry, exposed and vulnerable.
Infidelity trauma commonly triggers symptoms of anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). The trauma of infidelity can be so severe that it can cause an individual to re-experience the traumatic event, making it feel impossible to move past the discovery of events.
The process of recovery from infidelity trauma is long and arduous. When partners choose to attempt to reconcile and heal the fracture after infidelity, the long road ahead requires patience and a desire to develop an understanding of the unspoken break in trust.
Two of the most helpful supports after discovery of betrayal include: Individual Psychotherapy and joining a support group. One of the most supportive mechanisms of healing from Infidelity trauma is learning how to create a sense of worth and confidence in one’s self.
In addition to seeking professional help, couples who have experienced infidelity may also consider couples therapy. This type of therapy can provide a safe space for both partners to discuss their feelings, work through the loss of trust, and rebuild their relationship.
It is important to note that while recovery from infidelity trauma is possible, it is not always guaranteed. Some couples may choose to end their relationship, while others may work through the pain and rebuild their relationship. The key to healing is to understand that recovery is a journey, not a destination. It takes time, effort, and a commitment to self-care and personal growth. It is important to note that – with the right support and resources, partners can develop a new relationship, which consists of safe vulnerability and restored trust. Whether through therapy, self-care, or a combination of both, it is possible to reclaim one’s life after experiencing infidelity and betrayal.
Joining a support group can help with opening up to get started on the path to healing, as the group environment can be less intimidating than a one-on-one setting. Additionally, groups can be especially beneficial for individuals who are struggling with addiction or other forms of impairments as it can provide a sense of accountability and motivation to stay on track with recovery.
Our online support groups provide support and accountability, as well as a safe and supportive environment to practice new skills and behaviors. If you are struggling, support groups are a wonderful option to begin creating change in your life.